Wednesday, October 10, 2007

Misunderstanding


Sometimes I wonder why people misunderstand each other, Is it because one failed to talk to the other , or is it because one did not express what was expected.

Perceptions vary, people think a lot different, Probably i begin to realize that you hurt from the way you talk. You cannot take for granted that people will understand situations or talks the way you understand them. This is added to the lessons learnt.

Though you do not intend to hurt, or misbehave, what might look absolutely normal to you, may be someone else is being hurt and they think you are misbehaving. Surprising.

Why is there a hypocrisy? I was quoted as being "double standards",There are certain things that you might want to handle in certain ways, or choose to ignore, or choose not to ponder over it for long, why should you be told how to react to relationship problems? Any relationship is ruined if there is a third person involved. As long as two of you maintain it and come to common grounds they seem to be good, the moment someone else gets invloved it's messed up.

It's pretty delicate to deal with people. I wish priya was around to share this, may be she could have judged if what i thought was correct.

Adjusting is easier than arguing. Ignorance is Bliss. I personally feel when you have a problem it's better to resolve immediately, (Only if u think it's a problem).Little problems tend to turn into big problems, facts become confused, resentment and anger builds up. Who gains?

I'm surprised in my relationship of 10 years with Adarsh friends, misunderstanding never cropped up among us, is it because we never got that close that we fought, Or we left people to get back at their convenience, Things moved on. No one complained that I did not mail, Neither did I expect someone to ask me,



Life just goes off in a snap, What is more priority? A misunderstanding or the life itself?