Hairstyle gone bad...

I'm a great fan of my hair but not my hairstyle. My hair is balck, long ,wavy and healthy. But I have a great problem styling it, not because it's difficult but a simple fact that I don't know how to style. I never gave it a thought until kashyap told me that hair should be styled to look good. In my quest for a nice hair style, i've tried a variety of things.

Flattening it with a flat iron, My hair becomes straight , i don't have to do anything after that. Much more manageable , looks less in volume , sleek. But unfortunately I'm not a fan of straight hair. I like the natural look to my hair , than straightening it every time. Once in a while it's fine but not day in day out. 

Then, i went to a hair stylist , actually asking her to layer my hair and she gave me a lecture on how curly my hair is and why she won't do what i ask her to do. I pay her , fight with her, spoil my hair too and achieve nothing at the end of it.

Now I bore kashyap with various websites asking him if the hairstyle is good. I go to the stores and check out products from anti-frizz, to moist, to conditioners, to sleek look , and everything under the sun. My latest discovery in this field is the TRESemme anti-frizz creme. I don't know if it'll help me in anyway. 

I know what i need but I don't know who does it. I need frizz free, layered, wavy with few curls, in the right place that is easily manageable.

I'll wait till i find the right hairstyle for my hair, and probably have that beautiful wavy hair of Madhuri , or Bipasha or Kajol or Drew barrymore :).. 

 

Any tips with hair maintenance and the right parlors for a hair style is appreciated